The functional part of a relationship is the business of keeping everything running smoothly; and functional skills are necessary when negotiating the logistical day-to-day “to do” list. However love must underscore business, because without love, the score-keeping comes.
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Batiyah Lampl, Ph.D. is certified to administer the Values Arrangement List (VAL), a means to measure your values. These values encompass your life priorities, which in turn determine your actions and life goals.
A couple may use the results of this assessment to discuss where their values are and are not in sync. The understanding that develops from this activity can turn into acceptance for their differences; and clarity about the ones they share can then be utilized towards refining their life plans and developing a common sense of purpose and goals. Raising a family together is one of the most common shared purposes. Other common purposes include support for developing each others’ careers or gifts, sharing a love of community service or hobbies.
Taking the VAL can also be very helpful if you are in the midst of a career/job change because you are looking for more flexibility in your work life. The need for such change is common due to the unpredictability that comes with living with a mental disorder in the family. Knowing your values can help you make a better quality decision about your career—one that will increase your job satisfaction.
John Golden, Ed.D., developer of the VAL, explains, “Other values assessments do not take into account the true complexity of values and simply ask you to rank order your values. VAL overcomes this limitation by using advanced statistical methods and test design to generate an in-depth, easy-to-understand Individual Feedback Report.”